Welcome to confessions of a former people pleaser:
I’ve been a people pleaser all my life, I fit in with every “group” or clique in high school because I wanted to be liked so bad. I did the same thing into college and now into the working world. Until I didn’t.
When I became a teacher I started to realize very quickly that being a people pleaser wasn’t going to work anymore, I had to get past this fear of people being mad at me, or judging me, or not liking me, or not agreeing with me.
I never stood up for myself in my last relationship, everything was always my fault (yeah even his cheating, ugh but I’ll get to that🤦🏼♀️) but I didn’t want confrontation so that was the way it had to be. Then, something clicked.
I remember I was at school, my first year in the PreK program, a teacher from another program had stated that one of my babes was “unteachable”….now any of you teachers out there…..I know you are already FUMING…..as was I…..so I snapped. In a very leveled headed and professional way, but at the end of this she no longer worked in my room and my relationship with her was over. And when I went to go hug that student (who has made incredible strides, I can’t really even talk to him anymore without getting teary
-eyed because I’m so proud.) I was beaming, I did it. I stood up for myself, for my kiddo. I was not ashamed at all, and I didn’t give a SHIT that she didn’t like me anymore.
From that moment, it spiraled…..I had told my ex if I found him on another dating site I was gone, and he didn’t believe me, why would he? He knew I was a people pleaser, I’d be too scared of the fight, of him begging for me to stay, but I had a new fight within me, so I found it. And left. Never looked back.
More times than not in finding this new strength it works out to be beautiful. It’s fine that people don’t like you, it’s AMAZING when you stand your ground, because the world needs more people to stand up for what’s right.
Let’s start a revolution. But very simply, let’s grow our words and our voice, don’t be ashamed of fighting you fight or ruffling some feathers along the way.
If you make people mad, you make them think, and what a beautiful gift. 
Healing through Growth 