Tag: self-love

5 rules for your self talk

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I’m laying down 5 rules, 5 rules for self talk, 5 rules for abolishes negative self talk, 5 rules for establishing a beautiful language for an inner monologue…they are going to come out like they are simple, easy to follow, but they aren’t.

These are all things that I struggle with daily but continue to actively keep in my mind because it’s an uphill battle always, whether you come from trauma, are currently going through a mess, trying to heal, or are just living life with all the surrounding influence it’s never easy to just look at yourself and be overcome with the beauty, the progress, the bad ass that you are, so let’s actively give it a shot!

So here we go….

1. Praise what your body has done!

It’s carried you through this life, maybe provided you with children, fought off infection, or disease, walked you to every place you’ve been, let you see the miracles each day brings, let you hear the beautiful sounds of every moment, the stories of your parents, the laughter of your friends, and let you live, love, and embrace all the moments. Every stretch mark, jelly roll, muscle, scar, smile line….they show an amazing story, a wonderful life, you are here because of this vessel so give it love.

2. Don’t say anything to yourself you wouldn’t say to your son or daughter.

I think about this one actively….although I am not a mother, I think about my students. In my brain I think “man you look terrible, fat, ugly, you are a mess”…well I sure as hell wouldn’t let my babes talk like that to themselves so I’m not going to do it to myself or I am the largest hypocrite. Love on yourself the way you establish self love and confidence in the minds of your babes.

3. FORGIVE

You are human, live life, make mistakes, do things that you will never regret having done….and if you do end up regretting it….get rid of it. Forgive yourself and move on because all worry does is make you relive it twice, twenty times, a hundred times, and it will make you sick, you will feel like an embodiment of your mistakes and that is not fair to you, because you are so much more.

4. Be your loudest cheerleader

Believe in yourself, you were once a little girl/boy that had amazing, loud, and miraculous dreams for your future….don’t let them down, if you want to do something…there is NEVER a perfect time so take the leap, do it, you or will never regret the times that you fought for yourself, that you did something for you, that you smashed your goals, and encouraged your inner bad ass. You only get one life, so do it big.

Get that degree, take that vacation, start that new hobby, buy the motorcycle…whatever your story, pursue it!

5. Listen to yourself

If you are anxious, worried, feeling guilty, feeling insecure or unsafe. Do not disregard those feelings, listen to them, validate them and give yourself time to get through them, don’t shove it down…process it.

I learned this one first hand, I was embarrassed about how I was feeling so I’d shove it down in hopes it would go away…it doesn’t so, I got a journal, I processed, wrote it all out and then…well I burned it. I got rid of the negative self doubt, but not until I had gone through it all and respected my body enough to listen.

So there it is, give it all you have, for me. Your mental health is comparative to your physical, if you go to the gym once, you don’t walk about looking like Jlo.

Same with your mental health if you do it once you won’t be surrounded with the self love, it’s an daily active participation situation.

You are worth all the love that you are giving to others, so share some with yourself.

Self Care

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What does Self care look like for you?

I’m sitting here on this snow day, curled up in a fluffy blanket, cuddling my dogs, coloring, and watching friends.

I’m in full self-care mode.

But this is not the fullest extent of my self care, in the last year self-care has looked very clearly like rerouting my entire journey, I pulled family and friends closer, I shut people out, I was selfish with my time, I smashed goals for me, I focused on my fitness, I surrounded myself with the positive, and I devoted myself to a journey of self love. This was a massive leap into self care, and let me tell you……IT MADE EVERY DIFFERENCE.

So this is me telling you to make the jump, do it for you. If you need to cut something out, do it! If you are sad because you’ve distanced from a friend…contact them. If you are upset with the number on the scale….change it. If you haven’t made enough time for you….make it.

If you want to go on an adventure…..plan it. If you want to further your career….make the move.

All of this self care will make the difference and it will never be something you regret because you did it for you. Life is too short to not be the one in your own corner. Be your own biggest fan.

Take your life into your own hands and change it if you feel the calling.

Self care is often the little moments that look like this: a bubble bath, a face mask, a glass of wine, some yoga, writing, reading….there are a thousand ways that We make sure we take care of ourselves and this is necessary for anyone.

Whether it’s the little moments or the massive leaps. Take the move into self care and do it for you, because my darling you are worth it.